I've been looking for these for several days, and it was fun because I found a bunch of other great fic that I'd lost, forgotten or never read. But I'm giving up now because I don't think I'm going to find them. My google-fu has actually been pretty good lately, I've found several things (for myself and my girls) by playing with search strings, so I'm a little disappointed I can't find these. However (there's always a however) I know the good people here will help. Seriously, this is the best story-finding com in fandom.
So, first - and I know I had this! - Dean's well endowed, so guys always want him to top or want to suck him, and he can't bring himself to ask for what he really wants, which is to bottom. But Cas knows and shows up and convinces him that it's okay to let himself have what he wants. Hot sex, some cuddling, all good. I need this one back in my folder.
Found: in comments.
Second - Child Services gets Dean and Sam, they get split up, John finds and retrieves Dean but they don't find Sam. Then one night adult Sam walks into a gay bar and is instantly taken by a green-eyed beauty in a micro-mini and a Metallica tee; they have a great night together and the next day or so realize who they are. They hit the road together and eventually decide to be a couple. And John doesn't know about the crossdressing. And Dean has a toned-down version that Sam recognizes as 'work drag', or something along those lines.
Found: in comments.
And Third - this one's a little fuzzier and I'm not sure I've got the details right. I'm going to put it under a cut because it might be triggery.
( possible trigger )Found in comments! So, that's it. It took me about ten years, I think, to save all the stories and bookmarks I had before my computer crashed, and I'm thinking it may take me that long to find them all again. Or even remember them :-)
Thank you!