One Specific Request and a General Request - homophobia and Dean's childhood

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I'm looking for a specific fic where Dean, Cas and Sam are eating at a diner and one woman comes over and makes homophobic remarks. Cas is confused about why people think God is homophobic and I'm pretty sure it's a Destiel fic.

Also looking for any stories where characters are upset when they realise how things were for Dean growing up. Just finished reading Red and loved it.